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Dating coach shares best places for single boomer women to meet a man
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Laura Shallcross
05.10.21

If you’re a single woman in your late 40s to 60s, you’re going to want to listen to what April Braswell has to say.

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The Las Vegas dating coach specializes in helping middle-aged and older women get more dates.

As April explains, when you get more dates, you’re increasing your likelihood of finding a high-quality, long-term relationship that’s exactly what you’re looking for.

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So more dates = more chance of finding your perfect match… but how can you do that?

Dating might be easier because of the internet – there are apparently over 2,500 online dating sites in the US alone. But perhaps you’d rather meet someone naturally, especially as online dating over 50 doesn’t always work out.

Unfortunately, life isn’t like a rom-com, and it’s highly unlikely that you’ll stumble across your perfect guy at the library or on a life-changing trip to Bali.

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April knows that all too well, and she’s here to offer practical dating advice that we can all realistically follow.

The “daily five”

If you haven’t been on a date in a while, one of the first things to focus on is building up your contacts. When you meet more new people each day, you’re opening yourself up to the possibility of one of these people being – or knowing – your perfect date.

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Following the “daily five” technique, you simply meet up to five new people per day. Even if it’s a Saturday, you can still implement this step. Just get outside and visit a store that sells newspapers – that part is important! – and where people are milling around and interacting with each other.

Look at the headlines of these newspapers, then make an innocuous comment – not too political – and open up an opportunity for someone to respond. This isn’t to try and pick someone up; not yet. You’re simply practicing your interaction skills.

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Next up, you’ll want to head to your local coffee shop.

One of the great things about coffee shops, according to April, is that they’re pretty busy. When you’re standing in line, you have the perfect opportunity to speak to the person in front of you and the person behind you.

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Again, these people don’t need to be single – you’re simply getting comfortable with talking to strangers, which will make you a lot more confident when the time comes.

By now, you’ve met two people of your “daily five” – and it’s time to move on.

Let’s say that it’s now lunchtime. April says that the deli is the best place to head to meet people. Hopefully, there’s a line again. Once more, talk to the people around you.

You might have already hit your goal of five people by now, but if not, April recommends visiting another coffee shop in the afternoon.

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Then, in the evening, she suggests going to a local grocery store, as a lot of single people visit the grocery store between 5 and 7 pm. Again, open yourself up to conversation with the people around you.

April made it clear that to begin with, your “daily five” is simply to practice your communication skills.

But let’s not forget that all of the places she mentions are fantastic places to meet your future partner.

Once your confidence has been boosted, you can start being specific in your search. You can look for men who are alone, like you, and strike up a conversation with them.

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Even if this conversation gets you nowhere, it’s valuable, as it’s giving you practice.

Remember, there’s no rush to find your perfect match. What’s important is to put yourself out there, rather than waiting for a man to fall at your feet – which, let’s face it, would only happen in our fantasies!

For more great advice from April, check out her full video below.

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